When it comes to our mood, we often think it chose us. It is happening to us. And we feel like we don't really have much control over how we feel. This can't be further from the truth....Let me explain.
I used to belong to this camp. At an early age my mom instilled in me that no one could "make" me feel anything. So away went the statements "he made me so mad!" I knew it was my choice to feel anger/happy/sad/etc, no one was making me. But I had no clue how to choose my mood. I thought "that's just me." "that's just how I'm wired." This worked for a while through college, but it didn't make me any friends.
By my late 20's I realized I needed to change my ways. I needed to understand my feelings more. Understand exactly what I was feeling. At that time, I realized I only knew the names of two emotions. Happy and Angry. If I wasn't happy, I was angry. When I stumbled on a list of names of emotions, I felt like I was being liberated from my first prison. I know had words to better describe how I was feeling. But I still believed my feelings happened to me. I didn't at all think that I could master them and in turn "choose my mood."
It wasn't until years later did I start to put more of the pieces together. By chance we went to hear a financial expert in our hometown. He was talking about mindset and gave us the equation of Beliefs create Thoughts, which create Feelings, which lead to Actions, and ultimately add up to our Results in life.
B + T + F + A = R
I call this the BitFar equation. I now knew where feelings came from! I now understood that if I didn't like my feelings, then I needed to work on creating new belief systems. This again felt like I was being liberated from another prison of "life happening to me" instead of "life happening for me."
Years later this was corroborated by my life coach who said, "Feelings are just messages." If you are feeling angry, that is an invitation to go deeper. Find out what exactly your feeling and why so you can change the belief pattern that is causing that feeling.
Learning about how to create a mindset, led me to explore the emotional side of essential oils. The side that I had been resisting for so many years! I had to learn the science behind emotions before I accepted learning this information. And that is when I really started to set myself free.
It's my goal to bring these lessons to life here in my blog. Share my lessons so you can go faster through these steps than me. And hopefully avoid the painful potholes that not only have I hit, but I have mistakenly lived in!
What is your brain telling you as you read this? If you could choose any mood right now, what would it be? Share below and Ill help you with ways to cultivate that mood as we speak. :)
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